Dominic West's VERY frank views on love – from saying 'women should indulge affairs' to calling monogamy 'unnatural'

WHEN actor Dominic West was spotted kissing co-star Lily James outside a restaurant in Rome, all eyes turned to his poor wife Catherine FitzGerald. 

But while the mother to four of his children was initially said to be ‘devastated’, the married pair swiftly put on a show of solidarity, even kissing for the cameras outside their Wiltshire home.

While many were left baffled by the love-in, Dominic has always worn his heart on his sleeve when it comes to his, erm, frank views on infidelity.

From branding monogamy "unnatural" to declaring it would be “daft to kick someone out over a fling”, the 50-year-old has a rich history of remarks that might just make sense of his current scandal.

And he should know all about playing away – shooting to fame as love rat Noah in The Affair and playing a whole host of womanising characters throughout his 20-year career. 

Here’s a closer look at Eton-educated Dominic’s eccentric views when it comes to love and relationships…


'I was too immature or stupid to make the relationship work'

His recent dalliance with Lily James, 31, reportedly came as an upset to Catherine, 49, and not surprisingly, as Dominic has in the past branded his wife "the girl of [his] dreams."


They met at university, but the relationship broke down after six months.

He then went on to date aristocrat Polly Astor, with whom he has an older daughter Martha, before rekindling his love with Catherine and marrying in 2010.

Speaking to The Sun back in 2012, he admitted: ‘I wish I had known at 18 to appreciate it when I found the girl of my dreams. I didn’t. I failed. And I am lucky to have had a second chance.

"I had started university when I met my girlfriend, Catherine Fitzgerald. We started going out and it was great but I was either too immature or too stupid to make the relationship work."

‘Women should be more indulgent over affairs’ 

Despite realising he'd found 'the one' in wife Catherine, the star has certainly been outspoken over the years about his views on infidelity.

In an interview with the Evening Standard in 2016, he stated: 'I think women should be more indulgent of affairs. I really do.

"It’s daft to kick someone out over a fling, isn’t it? Everyone should turn a blind eye to men’s behaviour between the ages of 40 and 50. Let it all blow over.”

Despite this, in the same interview Dominic also revealed he wouldn't have felt comfortable watching his wife star in sex scenes like he had, saying: “There are a lot of sex scenes in The Affair. 

“If Catherine was in something like that I would not be happy. But she’s OK with it. She’s cool.”

‘I don’t want my wife to watch The Affair’

While The Affair was one of the pivotal moments in his career, Dominic previously confessed he didn’t want his wife to watch his steamy sex scenes. 

He said in a 2016 interview with the Irish Independent: "My wife hasn't watched The Affair yet and I don't really want her to. It's embarrassing. I don't have parents, but I've got five sisters and a brother and they haven't watched it. 

“My sisters were saying, ‘Yes, we heard it's good. We heard you do certain things there and we decided not to watch it.’

“Maybe they have watched a few but my wife wisely hasn't. I mean, it's not something I'd like to watch her doing."


Monogamy ‘not necessarily natural’ 

The Affair wasn’t the only role Dominic played that involved infidelity. 

While speaking about his role in the film Colette starring Kiera Knightley, Dominic told Harper’s Bazaar: “If you want to make a popular drama, start with infidelity.

“It’s one of those subjects that people have very strong opinions about because everybody is open to it and can experience it. It affects kings as much as it does snails. A lot of people have experienced it and a lot of people fear it.

“I suppose people suspect that the conventions that we have agreed upon in society, that a man and women can stay together for life or a certain amount of time without cheating, that they’re not really staying together based on anything other than how society thinks they should behave.

"It’s not the necessarily natural way to be, therefore there will always be adultery and intrigue about it.”

Despite this opinion, in an interview with the Daily Mail in 2012, the actor declared his "selfish, womanising” days were behind him. 

‘My wife had to tell me I’m not a womaniser’

She’s stood by him despite the recent photos, but it appeared all was not completely harmonious, with Dominic not wearing his wedding ring, and Catherine hiding her hands firmly in her pockets. 

But in the past, Dominic has relied on his wife to reassure him that he isn’t like his characters. 

When playing Le Vicomte de Valmont in a West End production of Les Liaisons Dangereuses, he joked that he was in danger of being typecast as a cad.

The actor told The Evening Standard: “That seems to be the way things are going but it’s not true.

“My wife was telling me when I came home really depressed after a preview ‘the trouble is you’re nothing like this character’. 

“I knew what she meant and she was trying to be nice.”

‘I wanted to be selfish for a bit longer’

While it’s all happy families for Dominic and Catherine for now, Dominic has admitted to splitting with the mother of his first daughter, Polly , because he “wanted to play the field”. 

“It was terrible because it was all me. I wanted out,’ says Dominic, who was 28 when Polly became pregnant with Martha. 

“I hurt Polly very badly, but at the time I wasn’t ready to settle down. I was two years out of drama school and things were going really well. I was doing films all over the place and didn’t want to be tied down. Then I got The Wire.’


‘Martha was about three when Polly and I split up, and The Wire was very much a part of it. Women were extremely important to me and I wanted to be selfish for a bit longer. I wanted to play the field, I suppose.”

So while Dominic and his wife are still very much together, it seems there will undoubtedly be a few more twists and turns in this very real ‘drama’. 

Let's hope history doesn't repeat itself.

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