My daughter, 6, exercises frantically & sucks her stomach in saying she’s desperate to lose weight and it’s all my fault

A MUM has opened up about the heartbreaking moment her six-year-old daughter told her she wanted to lose weight.

Posting on her Instagram account House of Hoods, Australian mum Jessica Hood said her daughter Lily has been exercising frantically and sucking her stomach in so she "can look like the other kids at school".

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Lily came up to me the other day and sucked in her stomach , she said I wanna look like this mum. I asked her why?. She said so she can look like all the other kids at school and then proceeded to start exercising in front of me. She looked so defeated. She’s just 6 years old. 6 years old and exposed to feeling body shamed already. My heart sunk. I feel afraid for my daughters , as they get older the world seems to get crueler , more judgemental. I also realised lately I haven’t been so kind to myself , I’ve been feeling not good enough , talking about losing weight to Karl in front of my children. Not realising little ears could be listening , being influenced by my words, the person they look up to the most. Sometimes we can get so caught up in trying to be someone else and changing we don’t realise the little people we influence everyday pick up on our words and actions. I don’t want my daughters to ever feel like they’re not good enough or they need to change. I want them to be proud of their bodies and what makes their bodies unique. I don’t want my sons to have unrealistic ideas about women’s bodies and only see the superficial things. Beauty is beyond someone’s size. It really is what’s Inside them,They’re actions and how they treat others. I don’t want any of my children to spend their lives feeling miserable and not good enough. I don’t want them to spend their days idolising unrealistic , photoshopped bodies. I don’t ever want my children to body shame anybody else or call them names. I want them to be excepting of everybody. I keep asking myself how I can change this , how I can influence them in a positive way when our tv’s are still filled with ads to lose weight and the new fad diet , social media is filled with edited photos and intermittent fasting tips. It’s a battle society has been exposed to for decades now. Although I can’t change the world and their ideas , I can change my thoughts on myself and how they impact my children. Be careful with my words and show them how proud I am of who I am . I can be the best influence to my children by leading by example. Hearing lily say those things the other day has been a huge wake up call.

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Lily came up to me the other day and sucked in her stomach , she said I wanna look like this mum. I asked her why?. She said so she can look like all the other kids at school and then proceeded to start exercising in front of me. She looked so defeated. She’s just 6 years old. 6 years old and exposed to feeling body shamed already. My heart sunk. I feel afraid for my daughters , as they get older the world seems to get crueler , more judgemental. I also realised lately I haven’t been so kind to myself , I’ve been feeling not good enough , talking about losing weight to Karl in front of my children. Not realising little ears could be listening , being influenced by my words, the person they look up to the most. Sometimes we can get so caught up in trying to be someone else and changing we don’t realise the little people we influence everyday pick up on our words and actions. I don’t want my daughters to ever feel like they’re not good enough or they need to change. I want them to be proud of their bodies and what makes their bodies unique.I don’t want my sons to have unrealistic ideas about women’s bodies and only see the superficial things. Beauty is beyond someone’s size. It really is what’s Inside them,They’re actions and how they treat others.I don’t want any of my children to spend their lives feeling miserable and not good enough. I don’t want them to spend their days idolising unrealistic , photoshopped bodies. I don’t ever want my children to body shame anybody else or call them names. I want them to be excepting of everybody. I keep asking myself how I can change this , how I can influence them in a positive way when our tv’s are still filled with ads to lose weight and the new fad diet , social media is filled with edited photos and intermittent fasting tips. It’s a battle society has been exposed to for decades now.Although I can’t change the world and their ideas , I can change my thoughts on myself and how they impact my children. Be careful with my words and show them how proud I am of who I am . I can be the best influence to my children by leading by example. Hearing lily say those things the other day has been a huge wake up call.

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In the emotional post, Jessica, from Melbourne, wrote: "She looked so defeated. She’s just 6 years old.

"6 years old and exposed to feeling body shamed already. My heart sunk.

"I feel afraid for my daughters , as they get older the world seems to get crueler , more judgemental."

However, the mum-of-four believes she's responsible for her daughter's newfound insecurities – having struggled with her weight in the past – and is teaching her to love her body.

“It’s a special bond that spans the years. Through laughter, worry, smiles and tears. A sense of trust that can’t be broken, a depth of love sometimes unspoken, A life long friendship built on sharing, Hugs and kisses, warmth and caring, Mother and daughter their hearts as one. A link that can never be undone.” . . . . #mymother #mydaughter #parentingquotes #mydaughterrocks #mydaughtermylife #perfectlittlegirl #aussiekids #aussiemums

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Reflecting on her own behaviour, Jessica continued: "I also realised lately I haven’t been so kind to myself , I’ve been feeling not good enough , talking about losing weight to Karl in front of my children.

"Not realising little ears could be listening , being influenced by my words, the person they look up to the most."

Along with the emotional caption, Jessica shared a photo of mirror selfie of her in her underwear as she pledged to start to be nicer to herself.

"I don’t want my daughters to ever feel like they’re not good enough or they need to change," she continued."I want them to be proud of their bodies and what makes their bodies unique."

I don’t ever want my children to body shame anybody else or call them names. I want them to be accepting of everybody.

Along with not wanting to give her sons an unrealistic expectation of women's bodies, Jessica also hopes her daughters won't idealise "unrealistic, photoshopped bodies" if she stops speaking negatively about herself.

She concluded: "Although I can’t change the world and their ideas , I can change my thoughts on myself and how they impact my children. Be careful with my words and show them how proud I am of who I am .

"I can be the best influence to my children by leading by example.
Hearing Lily say those things the other day has been a huge wake up call."

Since sharing the emotional post earlier this month, the image has racked up over 900 "likes" and dozens of supportive comments.

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Im not usually one to get in photos. I mean i should and I do try too but unless it’s on my terms I don’t like too. Since isolation started and I put on a few extra kg it has been really hard for me too enjoy having my photo taken and to feel confident. A selfie is different but someone capturing the flaws you try so hard to hide ….the things your self conscious about ….it’s different. So here is a rare picture of me and all four of my babies. I mean yes I’m hiding behind my kids but don’t we all? Lol honestly I don’t hate it. I actually look at it and think it’s a great picture. No makeup or extensions , no fancy angles …. just me and my brood and For once I haven’t sat here and picked myself apart. My kids look pretty happy too. We enjoyed a family day out. Pretty sure they didn’t care what I looked like or the fact I’ve gained a good 6kg of isolation weight. It is what it is. Can’t stop living especially now , after everything we have all been through lately. So get in the god damn photo! Your kids will appreciate it in years to come #thisismotherhood #iammum

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Im not usually one to get in photos. I mean i should and I do try too but unless it’s on my terms I don’t like too. Since isolation started and I put on a few extra kg it has been really hard for me too enjoy having my photo taken and to feel confident. A selfie is different but someone capturing the flaws you try so hard to hide ….the things your self conscious about ….it’s different. So here is a rare picture of me and all four of my babies. I mean yes I’m hiding behind my kids but don’t we all? Lol honestly I don’t hate it. I actually look at it and think it’s a great picture. No makeup or extensions , no fancy angles …. just me and my brood and For once I haven’t sat here and picked myself apart. My kids look pretty happy too. We enjoyed a family day out. Pretty sure they didn’t care what I looked like or the fact I’ve gained a good 6kg of isolation weight. It is what it is. Can’t stop living especially now , after everything we have all been through lately. So get in the god damn photo! Your kids will appreciate it in years to come #thisismotherhood #iammum

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"So true," one replied. "We are bombarded daily and our kids are sponges soaking it all up."

Another added: "Exactly this. I realised as well that I'm not very nice to myself and often put myself down in front of my little girl.

"I'd absolutely hate for her to put herself down like that so trying to be more positive."

"Having my daughter absolutely made me reassess how I talk to myself and my body," a third wrote. "Now I think "would I want her to say this about her body?" And if not, then I shouldn't say it about mine. Bodies (all different bodies) should be celebrated for what they can achieve."

Signs of an eating disorder in children

Your son or daughter may suddenly become withdrawn, touchy or even rude, which can make talking with your child very difficult, especially if they still cannot accept they have a problem with eating.

Symptoms of disordered eating include: loss of appetite, obsessing about body image, eating only certain types of things, being afraid of gaining weight, no longer enjoying eating socially or leaving the table quickly (to be sick or hide food)

If you suspect your child has an eating disorder, you should make an appointment with their GP.

The mental healthy charity Young Minds also has a Parent Hotline which offers eating disorder support.

You can find your local NHS eating disorder support services here.

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